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“Dear Coexistere,
So there’s this girl I’ve had feelings for a few years now. She claims shes “Bi”, but I’m not quite sure how true that is… I myself dont really put a label on what i am, I like what I like. Im not very open about it, but my friend knows this..the one i have a HUGE crush on. Anyways, shes my best friend and seriously almost every guy wants her. Since we’re best friends all the boys come to me for advice on how to get her, and its ironic cause i wish i knew how to do that myself. haha. She drives me crazy, shes sooo pretty, and is perfect in every way. just seeing her or talking to her makes my entire day (: But at the same time, she makes me so sad, confused, and frustrated… I’m scared cause i want her so badly and i feel like i can NEVER admit it to her. Im afraid of ruining of what we have as of right now. And everytime im with her its like my insides are buring cause i dont know what to do, i just want to kiss her. i dont want to feel this way but i cant help it. I’d do anything just to know if i even have a chance, and its like everyday my feelings get stronger and stronger… so someone please help me, what do i do!?..cause this situation sucks. ): -thanks”
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Everyone has liked a friend at least once in their life, whether it was someone of the same sex or the opposite. Some people tend to hide it for a while and just try to give small hints to the other person until they think it’ll be worth it to go for it or not. But, in your case, it is going to be a lot harder for you because it’s someone of the same sex that you’re unsure about. First off, it should make your situation easier considering she already know’s your sexuality. Second, if you’re her close friend and she’s okay with you being like that, and if she tell’s you that she’s ‘bi’ then maybe that is a sign that you’d stand a chance with her.
Okay, so obviously it’s kind of impossible for me to sit here and try to tell you how to win her heart when in reality she’s the only one who’d be good at giving advice on that. But, i can tell you how you can deal with this. You pretty much already have the sexuality thing taken care of, so that takes away the first step. Usually, in some cases, the first step is the hardest because some people haven’t admitted their sexuality yet. When that happens, some people tend to act homophobic and just avoid that person, and some people just pretend not to hear it. But, luckily, that isn’t you. So what do we do now? You need to confront her. She’s your best friend for a reason. She’s supposed to be there for you when you need her to be, so just tell her that there’s something you need to talk to her about, and that you need her to listen for a while. This is the point where thing’s get almost tough because you feel like you have limits on what you can say. Don’t put limits on your true feelings because thats when mistakes are made, just be real and honest and everything will be fine. Tell her that you never imagined it to be this way, but you see the way other’s look at her, and you can’t help but do the same. Everything you ever wished you could tell her should come out in this conversation. Just stay calm and be brave, and you’ll be fine.
What happen’s if it doesn’t go the way you planned? If she gets upset, give her time. Give her some space to think about it, because bothering her will only make it worse. She’s your friend, and i doubt she’d give up a friendship over this. And honestly, if she’s bi herself, she should understand what it feels like to like someone you’re not supposed to like.
I hope this helped you! and if you wish to talk more about it, i’d be glad to help you even more :) My email is taz9842@gmail.com
